The Butters All Natural Lube and Moisturiser From LTASEX

All Natural Lube

The Butters is an all-natural lube. It combines 6 of the world’s most nutrient-rich oils and butters with organic aloe for a slick, long lasting ride that leaves you soft & clean.

The Butters

The Butters was created as a solution to three problems in my life: chronic ashiness, dry hair, and most importantly, a lack of quality lube made for the sex I have. There are lots of products that solve the first two well enough, but I’ve never found a lube that’s beneficial to every orifice, non-toxic, plays well with lots of toy materials, won’t stain sheets, tastes good, is pregnancy-safe, and carries a reasonable price.

From The Butters Shop

 

The Butters

As my readers will know I don’t often review lubes. If I do they tend to have been provided in a package with something else, or they are something I feel is really special. This “lube” falls into the second category. Now although its own website calls it a lube I feel bad just referring to it as lube because it is soooooo much more than that. It is hypoallergenic, vegan, only tested on humans, Ph-balanced, clean drying, edible, has a neutral taste and smell, totally safe for internal use (vagina, anus, pregnancy-safe), amplifies natural lubrication, safe for pets and babies, non-toxic, and is produced/packed/stored to very high standards.

The Butters

I love this stuff. The scent is slightly nutty but not overpowering. The texture is light rather than being overly solid, I assume this is due the ingredients being ‘whipped’. It is really moisturising, and while it is oil based I didn’t find it at all greasy. It soaked in nicely leaving my skin wonderfully soft and smooth.

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According to the website The Butters can be used for many different things. Such as:

  • Hair & Skin Conditioner
  • Personal Lubricant
  • Massage Lotion
  • Face Cleanser
  • Makeup Remover
  • Wood & Leather Cleaner/Conditioner
  • Hot Oil Treatment
  • Shaving Lubricant
  • Beard Conditioner
  • Skin Protector
  • Tattoo Aftercare

I’ve used it for quite a few of these. I’ve used it as a lube (obviously ;D), massage lotion, for shaving, as moisturiser, on new tattoo, and to remove waterproof mascara. I really loved it for shaving, I learnt very quickly you need to rinse the razor in really hot water but you get a lovely close and smooth shave. I also found I had less of an issue with shaving rash, and itchiness.

the butters

As a lube I used it with quite a few toys made from a variety of materials. On my glass dildo it was very slippery, I managed to push the dildo out of me even more easily than normal. I liked the feel of it on my wooden dildo, it was lubricated without being too slick. Plus it almost felt like it was conditioning the wood. It also worked nicely on my silicone dildo without leaving any residue.

I found when using it for hand jobs I had to use more so it didn’t soak in too quickly, but it felt great and because it warmed up in my hand it lasted for ages. With internal (vaginal) use it seemed to add to my natural juices keeping things moving easily. Now it does state clearly on the label it is unsuitable for use with latex, so be aware if you are using latex condoms. However, I used it with non-latex condoms (skyn) without an issue, I didn’t notice any breaking down of the material.

I did notice a slight change in the scent after it had been opened four weeks, the smell got a bit more nutty, and slightly dusty smelling. Not dirty dust but that type of scent. It’s not a bad scent just a change to note.  The Butters should have a shelf life of no less than 6 months at room temp. If you keep it in the fridge, it lasts pretty much indefinitely.

Overall

I loved The Butters. It has so many uses plus it’s all natural and animal friendly. I can’t wait to try some of the other products in the range. The coffee body scrub sounds amazing.

 

*I was sent The Butters all natural Lube in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

MEO Black Friday Sale Announcement

MEO

MEO have been sponsoring my website for around a year now. I’ve found them great to work with; they are open, receptive, and polite. My contact always responds to my emails promptly, and they are very quick to act on the occasions I have had a problem.

MEO have been going since 1997. Based in the heart of Europe, they have been successfully delivering their products all over the world. Every day, thousands of items leave their mail-order warehouse to bring pleasure to people everywhere. They began as a German special mail-order business for men, and although their focus is still men, they do sell plenty of products to please ladies too. Under the slogan “MEO makes you come” many interesting products from the bizarre erotic sector awaiting you. MEO is one of the leading providers in the erotic sector.

MEO

SERVICE, DISCRETION & PROFESSIONALISM are important for the team. So they can already assure you that your order will be handled discreetly and sent to you in neutral packaging. They deliver all over the world, no minimum order, within a short period. You would usually receive your shipment in Europe in a few days at reasonable shipping rates (beginning at € 6.90) (express shipments are possible of course, if you should require an article very quickly).

Trust in their many years of experience and enjoy hassle-free shopping at MEO.

Announcement

This month I have just one announcement from MEO. They would like me to let all my fabulous readers know about their BLACK FRIDAY SALE. This is a discount that will be running all weekend from Black Friday (25th Nov) until Sunday 27th. On that weekend they will be offering a massive 33.33% off site wide. The discount code for this is BLACKFRIDAY2016 to be entered at the checkout. More details will be announced in their newsletter, so if you’re not already signed up, now is the time.

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Community and Cliques – My Thoughts and Feelings

Sex Blogging

When I first became a sex blogger I felt like I’d joined a real community. I had blogged previously in other genres and ended up walking away because of the rivalry, back-stabbing and bitchiness that seemed to be rife. I didn’t feel like the sex blogger community was like that, everyone seemed so welcoming and friendly. I was so happy to be a part of it, I felt like I’d found home. Sometimes I still feel like that.

My realisation started at an event I attended. I’d been really excited about going, about getting to meet people in person that I’d been talking to online for months. There were two or three people there who I had met in person before so I was hopeful that I would at least have someone to talk to. I was wrong. If it hadn’t been for two people who I hadn’t met before I would have been completely miserable. As it was I left the event feeling like I wanted to give up, and walk away from sex blogging. I was talked down by a few people, and I’m glad because I love what I do. I just wish we all had the same experience of the community because it is very clear to me we do not.

Community Divisions

There are divisions in the community, and in many cases they are to be expected. There is the divide between what people write on their sites; such as reviews, or erotica, or articles. You would think they’d all be the same but you can see a definite difference in the way they are perceived, and how they interact. I think that is just the difference in personality, and there are people who straddle those different worlds. There is also a UK/US division, which I feel is more down to culture and attitude than it is any real divide. There are many US sex bloggers who I look up to, the people who to me are at the top of the game.

I think it is important to also address the issue of friendships. People might say that there aren’t cliques, there are just groups who are friends. While I acknowledge that there are those types of groups, which is to be expected when people live nearer, and are able to meet up regularly. Or who chat to each other in places other than twitter, so they are able to form true friendships. I don’t feel those groups are cliques, they are just groups of friends who support each other. Sometimes I think this support could be given with more thought to others but I understand how it happens, it is also why for some bloggers it can feel like they are being “jumped on”. I’ve felt it myself. You make a throwaway comment and suddenly five people in a friendship group are yelling at you about how wrong you are, all they’re trying to do is get across a point they feel strongly about. However, if you’re on the receiving end it can feel like you’re being shouted down. But again I see no negative intention in that, so I don’t feel that is cliquiness.

DangerousLilly recently shared a post about ‘The Blog Squad”, and until I read that post I hadn’t realised that some people felt like it was a clique. For me the blog squad was just a group of bloggers who had met in person at an event, and it was a group I hoped one day to be part of. Yes, they were friends but they also did a lot for the community and to promote bloggers. In my eyes they were championing inclusivity, and sex positivity. I didn’t realise people thought they were cliquey.

Cliques

community

I think there is occasionally some cliquiness that occurs in the community. I have experienced it. I have joined in a conversation only for my answer to be ignored while someone else repeats what I said and is hailed for it. I’ve spoken up and been shouted down. Sometimes I deal with this better than others. There is a fear in the community, I’ve had more than one person DM me to ask if I think it’s okay to tweet xxx because it differs from most people’s opinion and they’re afraid they will get “jumped on”. When this happens I encourage them to tweet, and then watch ready to defend them if necessary. Maybe that makes me part of the problem. I think even when the intention isn’t to make people feel that way, the fact that is has happened multiple times means that feeling does exist. People do feel like there are cliques.  The poll above clearly shows they do.

What Next

Maybe instead of denying the experiences some people have that make them feel cliques exist within the community we could start being kinder to each other. Many of us have some form of anxiety and/or other mental health problems, and I think we are our own worst critics, so we have a natural inclination to assume the worst. I think we all need to start assuming the best of each other, and if we’re not sure we need to ask……quietly without fuss via a DM. If they don’t follow you and you can’t send a DM, just a quick tweet asking them to follow so you CAN follow them. Echo from EchoExplores talked about Blogger love in her recent post; how despite the fact that we have our differences we all want the same thing. And how we need to unite to educate the companies we work with, to help them improve and be more receptive to what we can offer.

With the state of the World at the moment I think we all need to be a little kinder, to ourselves and to each other. Now more than ever we need to come together and support each other within the community and outside it as well.

Save Our Sex – Ask A Sexpert Agony Aunt Advice Column

Ask A Sexpert with KnickerRockerGlory

The first advice column for Save Our Sex went live yesterday. If you’d like to send us a question you will find the contact form by clicking the image below.

save our sex

Save Our Sex

This is the question I chose:

I am a man who wants to be better at sex. For me, this means lasting longer. However, I often have the opposite problem and struggle to get or maintain an erection. I’m on antidepressants. What can I do to help?

You can find out what I suggested to help this gentleman by clicking the logo below.

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Patreon – Can You Help Support my Writing Work?

Hey All

I’ve got a special announcement that I want to let you in on. I just joined Patreon.

patreon

Patreon

In case you’re wondering, Patreon is a simple way for my fans to contribute to my writing every month, and get great rewards in return. I have a few different reward levels available. Anything you can pledge to give each month will help me. I am working as hard as I can to get more jobs that pay me but this means my true passion, fiction has to take a backseat. By contributing to my campaign you are helping provide me with the support I need to truly live my passion.

I wanted to share the link with you, if you can’t help now I will be putting a banner on my side bar, so you can help laterif you want to. You can check my Patreon page out here.

Also, if you have any suggestions for other rewards I could offer then please drop me a note (no I will not be offering nudes as part of this deal). 

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