Book Review – Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, 2nd Edition

How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games,

Erotic Massage, BDSM Play and Much, Much More

By Violet Blue

Foreword by Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D.

288 pages

Violet Blue is the best-selling author of numerous sex-instruction books, including The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. She also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health for magazines such as O: The Oprah Magazine, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, Esquire, Glamour, Maxim, Marie Claire, Men’s Health, Penthouse, Redbook, and more. She lives in San Francisco. Find her online at:
Violet’s Twitter: @violetblue
Dr. Carol Queen is a writer, speaker, educator and activist with a doctorate in sexology. Her books include Pomosexuals, Real Live Nude Girl, and Switch Hitters. She lives in San Francisco, where she is the Good Vibrations Staff Sexologist. Find her online at
There were quite a few things about The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy that I really loved. From the start it is very sex positive and inclusive. Violet Blue goes to great lengths to make sure the reader knows that whatever your sexual fantasy it is ok. She talks about how fantasies can be a way to go to extremes without any real-life risks, about using fantasies to enhance your sex life (both playing solo or with a partner), and using them as a way to change habits and learn new tricks. This was a section I found fascinating and would have liked it to be a much larger section, the idea of teaching yourself a new technique (such as deep-throating) when masturbating alone, and using the fantasy as a stepping stone so you are relaxed, comfortable and turned on by it before trying it with a partner. Another touch I enjoyed were the little stories at the end of each chapter; a dirty little scene emphasising whatever has just been said in the chapter.
I did find some sections a little repetitive, especially the lists of different types of fantasies, which seemed to be repeated as filler on a few occasions, with only a small amount of alteration. It also keeps the advice very general, with little in the way of specific how-to’s, with the exception of don’t do this you will get arrested.
 Overall The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy was a great book full of ideas for an imaginative sex life, it was written in a fun and engaging way, while still ensuring readers remember safety first. I would have liked to see Violet Blue go into more depth and less generalisations on some things but generally I think it was very good……and the resources chapter is packed full of useful further reading.  I think if you’re unsure, lacking confidence, trying to find what turns you on, or just want some inspiration this book would be the perfect jumping off point.
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