Girl on the Net: How A Bad Girl Fell in Love
336 pages, 15 x 2.2 x 21 cm
Girl on the Net is a London-based award-winning sex blogger and writer, with over 100,000 unique visitors per month, she has been voted one of the UK’s most influential sex bloggers, Best Sex Blogger 2014 and winner of Editorial of the Year 2014. How a Bad Girl Fell in Love is her second memoir.
Her blog covers topics like erotica, feminism, popular culture and body confidence. With more than her fair share of sex and dating mistakes behind her, her unique mix of dirty stories, unusual advice and witty, funny, outspoken rants has gathered a wide audience both in the UK and abroad. The voice of a generation, she has also written for the Guardian, New Statesman, FHM, Debrief, Cosmopolitan, Reveal & Closer.
Girl on the Net
As well as being an avid reader of Girl on the Net’s blog, I had also read and loved her first book, My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets, if you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend it. So when I was asked if I’d like to review her second book, How A Bad Girl Fell in Love, I jumped at the chance…..there may have been actual squealing and jumping. It arrived and I managed to read it in two days. Then came the hard part, for six weeks I had to pretend it didn’t exist. However, that gave me the perfect excuse to re-read it before I wrote this review.
How a Bad Girl Fell in Love
Girl on the Net – How A Bad Girl Fell in Love is part confessional, part drunken-rant-on-the-bus from the writer of one of the UK’s most popular sex blogs. Guiding readers through the lessons that a thirty-something sex blogger has learned about sex and love, the journey begins with a happy ending and goes swiftly downhill. The book dismantles some of the myths about romance as she learns to understand her own relationship, family and personal issues through stories and weird facts gathered from three years of sex blogging.
This book explores key sexual issues facing men and women: porn, kink, commitment, the biological clock, why feminist men are hot (!) and how society dictates how we should conduct and feel in our significant relationships. It also explores whether sex and love should really go hand in hand, or whether happiness lies in following your true desire…
In case you hadn’t already figured it out I really loved How a Bad Girl Fell in Love, and not just because I could identify with so many of the things Girl on the Net talks about. It is well written, entertaining, honest, and really fucking insightful. More and more of our generation are choosing to do things differently, to not follow the ‘path’ people expect, and so much of this book is telling you, “hey that’s okay, the people who matter won’t care about that stuff”. It can be figured out. Both times I read this book I actually hugged it when I finished, that only happens with very special books, with books that I really connected to.
The chapter titles are all taken from advice articles on the internet, and I love the little ‘quotes’ that go with them. Those funny little snippets of conversation that give us an insight into the connection between Sarah and Mark, and how they relate to each other. I want to tell you this book is about Sarah, and I guess it is; it’s told from her point of view, and is about how she sees the world. But in reality it’s so much more than that. For someone who professes right at the beginning that she isn’t really a romantic person, this book is actually very romantic, you could see the whole thing as one huge love letter to Mark. Through her eyes we see him…and what a picture she paints. I’m not saying he’s perfect, who is? But she manages to talk about his flaws in a way that shows she accepts them as part of him, and she loves him. It’s truly beautiful writing.
Don’t worry though, there’s also plenty of filth; those hot sexy stories we love, after all this is Girl on the Net. The description of the fast furious sessions in a hallway, her back to him hands braced against the walls, had me wiggling in my seat. The introduction of The Doxy body massager was a highlight of the book, that had me giggling madly…and then reaching for my own. Her description of Mark’s hesitation when first using it on her, almost makes you feel you were there, you can imagine his expression as he watches her responses to this magical toy; changing from flustered, to worried, to horny. It’s a fabulous piece of writing, and one of the best endorsements for The Doxy you will ever see.
My favourite chapter in How a Bad Girl Fell in Love was chapter four, entitled ‘When Did Sex Become The Wrong Way To Show Affection?’. The reason it’s my favourite is because it’s about hugging, I am a hugger. I love hugs. Quick friendship squeezes, long snuggles that help to calm me, and fun naked ones that tend to get naughty very quickly. I really love hugs. The chapter starts by talking about how Mark is a hugger, Sarah is not. The phrase “I’d rather fuck than cuddle.” was particularly entertaining. But what I really liked about this chapter was how Girl on the Net’s way of thinking changed. She started believing she was being really subversive, behaving in a way that flew against everything she’d ever been given to believe was how ‘women’ should act. However she realises that actually it isn’t as simple as she thought, and really she was still the one dictating how things should happen.
I really loved How a Bad Girl Fell in Love. I think I loved it even more than her first book. I could go on and on about how amazing it is, the way she unashamedly talks about her struggles with a mental illness, and how hard it was to even admit it was an illness. How brilliantly she deals with her feelings about moving in together, or sharing the cost of things, or sharing the household chores, while still keeping up a sex life, and holding her relationship together. But really you should just go buy her book, because it’s worth it.
*I received a copy of this in return for an honest and unbiased review. How a Bad Girl Fell in Love is available now, you can buy your copy here.