This week’s prompt might have the potential to be a bit explosive…
Monogamy is a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during his or her lifetime or at any one time (serial monogamy), as compared to polygyny, polyandry, or polyamory.
It seems all of us have something to say about monogamy, and I would love to have some of those thoughts shared. What are your thoughts on this? Are you monogamous, or are you looking for a monogamous relationship? Do you have your own definition for monogamy or do you maybe have a new word to describe the relationship you are in. Share your thoughts…
I was intending to continue my story, and it would have fit quite well with this prompt but instead I am going to waffle on about monogamy (or rather non-monogamy), what it means to me, and how that is changing.
My parents (and every other couple I knew until very recently) were monogamous. This meant that for a long time I thought that was the only way to be. I’d see couples who seemed really happy fall apart because one or other of them had ‘cheated’. Then I started this blog, and met so many people who did things differently, and the more I found out about non-monogamy the more I wondered how many of those couples might still be together if society wasn’t telling them that monogamy is the only option.
I know I can be quite a jealous person but this is more to do with not knowing where I stand, and having self-esteem issues that mean I always assume someone is with me because they don’t have any other option. I know. I know. I always thought non-monogamy wouldn’t work for me because of that tendency to jealousy but the more I hear about it, and read about it, and talk about it the more I think it could be an option. Or if not an option as such, then something I wouldn’t completely discount as a possibility.
I also think that while labels can be helpful, and have their place, you shouldn’t need to define your relationship for anyone else. If what you are doing is working for you, and no-one is getting hurt then I don’t see a problem. I’m sure there are people out there living like this without knowing the name for it. That doesn’t make it any less valid as a choice.
Am I looking for a monogamous relationship? I honestly don’t know. Would I like a committed relationship? Yes, I would. But I don’t know what form it will take until it actually happens.
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